I was talking with a coaching client recently and challenged her to think about what she wanted to say yes to in her life. What were the most important things and people and opportunities? What were the important pieces of her job? She'd been experiencing some health problems and had to re-enter her job and her life slowly. We discussed what was in her life that was taking her time but were not things she was really passionate about. They were good things but they were extras.
I challenged her to say "no" to some things in her life. And then I found myself saying, "You know, saying "no" is a spiritual discipline." I don't know where it came from but once the words were out of my mouth, I realized how true they were.
Saying "no" often does not feel good. We hate to disappoint, we hate to be the ones to say no. Sometimes it takes faith to say no. You do not know that another opportunity will come along but you know this one is not the right. It's easy to feel valued and important if we are always available and saying yes to everyone. However, if we say yes to everything in our lives, we miss out on what we are really created, gifted and called for.
In coaching we know that to say no to some things means that you are able to say yes to others.
What do you want to say yes to? How can you practice the spiritual discipline of saying no?